Due to circumstances out of my control every Sunday morning I have to attend church via cable television. Where normally Pastor Joel Osteen gives a great sermon. Yes there are perks to listening to the sermon in your pajamas but it’s not the same as being there. I miss being able to fellowship with my fellow Christians and speak on the goodness of God. One of my favorite parts of church service stems from when I was a little girl and we had what we called; Testifying service. During this part of service church members could stand up and testify about how God “made a way out of no way” or they could ask for prayer. Sometimes they would just speak on the goodness of Jesus and all he as done for them or someone they know.
Fast Forward to early in the wee hours of this past Friday morning God spoke a word to me. He said that there are so many who are like me that cannot attend church for whatever reason. He told me to give them and myself of course, a platform to speak on his goodness or ask for prayer. So every Sunday I am going to open up my blog to those of you who would like to either ask for prayer or just speak on the goodness of God.
Here’s how it works: if you want to testify start your writing off with #TESTIFY; if you want to ask for prayer, start your writing off with #DEAR GOD
We are a family here so we should be able to ask for prayer or just speak on great things that have happened in our lives or someone that we know. You don’t have to do one of each.
I will start: #TESTIFY: It always amazes me how God sends comfort to us in times of distress. This past year was such a trying year for me and my family. However God sent comfort to me in various ways. One time in particular I was picking my daughter up from school and I was talking to God and telling him how I didn’t think that I was going to make it. Suddenly one of my favorite Christian songs came on the radio and it began to fill my heart with joy. He is always there for us and he knows how to get us through and that’s why I love him.
#DEARGOD: I know that you are not finished with me yet and that I probably have a long way to go. I just ask that you continue to strengthen and direct me so that I may please you and fulfill my purpose.
#TESTIFY: I would like to thank God for all my blog family, immediate family and friends. God made us to be helpers one to another. So for everyone who has supported me with my dreams, book, blog, twitter, LinkedIn and anything else I’ve participated in..thank you and may God bless!!
DEAR GOD: Dear God I still need your help. I am still working on my patience. I know it takes many slips and falls before we reach the path that leads to success. I am so anxious to fulfill my destiny I don’t want to delay reaching it much longer. Help me wait until you have refined me like gold cause only then will I be ready to partake in the greatest fight of my life. The fight for winning souls for your kingdom
THE ONE THAT GOT AWAY: How do we know he was the one that got away? We should think about why the relationship ended. What were the circumstances? What did he do? Or was it your fault? Did you find yourself in the arms of another man? Did you blow up over something minor and suddenly found your man turned off? I think sometimes we as women can get too comfortable just like men. We can get to the point to where we feel like our man loves us and he is not going anywhere. We tend to become more demanding of him assuming that we don’t have to continue to do the things that we did that captured his heart initially. We get complacent. So maybe we get lazy and he gets bored with you and then curious about someone else. Wondering if you could’ve done more or what you could’ve done to save the relationship; you find that it’s too late and your heart is breaking. He’s always the one you think about and compare your new potential mates too. Although no one will ever measure up to him, your heart tells you you’re settling when you try to fix your sights on a suitor. You find that once you’re in a relationship, your new man doesn’t treat you the way your ex did. Even though he tries to do everything and actually does everything right, his actions still don’t make your heart skip a beat. When you look in his eyes you don’t see forever. With your ex on your mind you wonder should I try to get him back? Now you’re wondering things like “should I apologize?” Give him an unexpected call late one night to invite him over?” you know what this means…But will you be comfortable with opening yourself up to a situation that has expired. This can be very risky!!
As we discussed earlier sometimes men do use other women to help them get over a break up, so you may see something you don’t want to see. Of course we never look at it like that. Maybe you can just call and ask to meet him at your favorite restaurant and dress to impress. You may find that he is receptive and want to get back together. On the other hand, as we discussed earlier, in most cases just like us once a man is finished for the most part, he is not too quick to give second chances. However if it means peace of mind in knowing that you tried to salvage what you could of his feeling so that you could renew your relationship, than like I always say; You only get one life so don’t live it with tons of regrets”.
EXCERPTS FROM MY BOOK: A CONVERSATION WITH A REAL WOMAN ~DIVINE PEACH TO MY BLOG FAM, WHAT ARE YOUR THOUGHTS??
So what do you do ladies when you find someone that you can’t shake, when you find the one that after many attempts to cut this person off you can’t? Do you go with the flow and allow yourself to be consumed with the very joyous emotions that you have been searching for your whole life? Or do you allow fear to consume your heart and make it become stale? Hard, stiff to any emotion that could possibly equate itself with love. Do you continue to play the same games that you have always played or do you turn in your card? Do you afford yourself the happiness that this person could possibly bring you? Or does the risk out weight the reward. What if you’re wrong? What if you relax the holds that you have on your heart so that you can receive the feeling that this person is trying to show you, should you do this? You have perfected the art of upholding your shield blocking all emotions that have tried to enter into your being and cause you to feel, that have attempted to try to lead you on or deceive you into thinking that someone could actually care about you and want to be with you maybe even “wife you”. Why is it so hard to believe that we can attract a good man that is willing to love us? I think it’s just hard to think that after all of the bad guys that we have had to entertain that there is actually one out of the bunch that we can actually trust to do the right thing. We can’t afford to think this way. It’s a defeated attitude and it will handicap our ability to love and in turn allow others to love us. I’m not in this situation just want to know what you think
I LAUGHED……..I CRIED
SECOND CHANCE….NEW LIFE
FRIEND FIRST?…..THAT’S RIGHT
FUN DAYS…..NO NIGHTS!!
TRUE LOVE. ….REALIZED
GOT GOD, FAMILY, PEACE OF MIND..
Soooo…yeeaahh.. We are breaking up because you ate your peas one at a time. it’s stupid!! It’s so annoying!! I have asked you to use a spoon over and over again, but NO! you insisted on using your finger and picking them up one at a time!! There are always like 20 peas on your plate, it drives me crazy!!
It doesn’t matter that you are always there for me when I need you. For instance, like when you came and took care of me when I had the flu, I mean you called in to work and everything! Even though you took off work and I knew you couldn’t really afford to, you did it anyway! Oh and there was that time that you helped me write my thesis, (you practically wrote it yourself) and you had a paper due the next day; You stayed up all night to help, yes I remember that; that was cool of you! And there was that time that you came over to my house and cooked dinner for me because I had to work a double shift and you knew I was too tired. That was such a nice surprise, I was even thinking on my way home from work; what am I going to do for food? ( I was too tired to stop on the way). Oh yeah and what about how you always call me to tell me goodnight because you know I like to hear your voice before I go to sleep. I could call you, but I wouldn’t commit to it and would probably forget, I remember that’s why you volunteered to do it. I can’t forget that time you sent my mom flowers on her birthday because you knew I would forget, she was so happy when she called me to thank me for them, I think she was crying.
Sooo..Yeah.. now that I think about it,
SPOONS ARE OVERRATED!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I wrote this silly rant to remind us of how we tend to turn mole hills into mountains. We highlight everything that is wrong with our partners and we don’t highlight the good. If you have to write down all the good things your partner does and has done for you then do so, so you don’t forget or trivialize their presence in your life. Start your list today!! Pull it out every time you think about breaking up with him/her. Oh and please remember they are making a list about you. Let’s hope you make the grade
I thought today in honor of #TBT I would share a couple of posts from a few years back from my Facebook page DivinePeachInc
I HOPE YOU ENJOY THEM!!
SOME WOMEN GET IT…SOME DON’T
Some women get it… you see your happiness is tailor made for you.. Every experience from your childhood until now creates a unique fit for what you need in your life to be happy.. From the things you felt your life lacked..to the things you felt you were over exposed to and do not desire to have anymore.. The key is gettn that needed time alone so that you can figure it out..
Have you or someone you know ever lost themselves in a relationship? It is very hard to end a relationship that you have lost yourself in. What is the danger in losing yourself? Well for one you put this relationship and person before everyone and everything else. All you think about is him, can’t remember or take care of business, calling him constantly, You can’t go out with friends or don’t have time for friends anymore, You blend your life with this relationship and you make it one. This means your life and the life of your relationship is one and the same. Surely we all know and understand the importance of keeping a life separate from your relationship and mate. Why should you do this for those who don’t know? We do this because in the event your relationship ends it will not have such a detrimental effect on your life as a whole. You can actually begin to separate yourself from the things and places or whatever that cause painful memories. You can begin to close that chapter without having to close so much of the life that you are going to have to live while moving on. Plus even if the relationship doesn’t end sometimes it good to visit your life outside of your relationship to collect yourself, to step outside and look at your relationship to make sure you are happy and its progressing. We all know a relationship that’s dormant has no future.
AND FINALLY….IF YOU’RE INTERESTED…
empowering yourself inwardly and spiritually can be detrimental in how your body feels outwardly.. A Conversation With A Real Woman was written as a guide to help women empower themselves and increase their self worth
This link will take you to sample pages so that you can experience the book for yourself: