Sometimes it is so hard to understand why we have to take a certain path in life. The journey is so hard to understand. We all have so many challenges in life that are tailored to our decisions, our environment, and our unforeseen destiny. I know that in my own life I have wished that I could hit the “re-do” button or the “easy” button. It is not until we have overcome some form of tragedy in our lives that we understand that we need the turbulence to make our lives more stable and secure. The most successful people face the most horrible circumstances. Did these horrific events seem worth it once success was obtained? I’m sure. Our tragedies, heartaches, disappointments and failures help develop us into who we are. They give us character, self-worth, and compassion. I have heard that anything that comes to you easy, will not be worth having. It is said that you will lose it as fast as you gained in. However, when you have to fight for something, you can appreciate it more. You will love on it more, you will cherish it more, and you will respect the process that you went through to obtain it.

The process is never easy, it takes DEDICATION, SACRIFICE and a nice dose of FEARLESSNESS. Why these 3 you ask?

DEDICATION: you have to be dedicated to the cause. You cannot allow distractions to make you lose focus of the goals that you have set. You have to make up your mind that no matter what, your goal will remain a priority of yours and no matter how long it takes you will see the process through.

SACRIFICE: you will have to make sacrifices in order to achieve your goal. You will not be able to hang out and attend every event that your friends or families do. You will have to set aside time to work on your goal. Social media is sometimes distracting so you may have to turn off your devices to get some time alone with your work. Being disciplined means prioritizing and giving less priority to those things that will not add to your success.

FEARLESSNESS: You will have to be fearless because everyone will not understand your goal. Some people that you thought would believe in you, wont. Sometimes people you love won’t feel like your goal is what’s best for and will try to redirect your path. You have to be strong and respect their concern, but live your own life to the fullest.

I wrote this post to not only encourage someone else, but also myself. I am trying to stay sane through my process. Sometimes it gets hard. I have had family and friends not believe in what I’m trying to do. My advice, I know its painful and sometimes you can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel; stay the course and it will be worth it.


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