Yes, I asked; How much are you worth? I sometimes get tired of hearing people concern themselves with how much a potential partner is going to bring to the table in a relationship. Now don’t get me wrong, it is very important that we find someone that can uplift us and make us better. However, a lot of times these people have not solidified their worth. How can you sit there and demand someone pass your checklist of demands when you have nothing to offer. Society has conned people into believing that “it’s always the other person, that it is never you.” This makes us judge our potential partners so harshly that we sometimes miss out on the goods ones. You can’t expect for someone to bring everything to the table. A relationship is a partnership, which means everyone has a part to play. This type of thinking creates one-sided relationships. It creates an imbalance, which causes one person to be very unhappy and the other very satisfied. These type of relationships never last because sooner or later the one doing all of the investing and sacrificing will get tired and move.
SO WHAT IS YOUR WORTH?
So have you thought about your worth? What do you bring to the table? I am not talking monetarily. Are you a great listener? Are you a super-positive person who is great at helping people get through tough times? When you are in a relationship, do you help bring out the best in your partner? or Are you emotionally unstable? Do you always have to have your way? Do you think about yourself first, then others? Are you insecure? Do you nag all the time?
I wrote this post because I think we all should do a little soul-searching before entering into a relationship. We need to make sure that we are whole and are able to see passed ourselves. A relationship takes two. Hold up your end and your partner will be happy to hold up his/her end.