THE ONE THAT GOT AWAY: How do we know he was the one that got away? We should think about why the relationship ended. What were the circumstances? What did he do? Or was it your fault? Did you find yourself in the arms of another man? Did you blow up over something minor and suddenly found your man turned off? I think sometimes we as women can get too comfortable just like men. We can get to the point to where we feel like our man loves us and he is not going anywhere. We tend to become more demanding of him assuming that we don’t have to continue to do the things that we did that captured his heart initially. We get complacent. So maybe we get lazy and he gets bored with you and then curious about someone else. Wondering if you could’ve done more or what you could’ve done to save the relationship; you find that it’s too late and your heart is breaking. He’s always the one you think about and compare your new potential mates too. Although no one will ever measure up to him, your heart tells you you’re settling when you try to fix your sights on a suitor. You find that once you’re in a relationship, your new man doesn’t treat you the way your ex did. Even though he tries to do everything and actually does everything right, his actions still don’t make your heart skip a beat. When you look in his eyes you don’t see forever. With your ex on your mind you wonder should I try to get him back? Now you’re wondering things like “should I apologize?” Give him an unexpected call late one night to invite him over?” you know what this means…But will you be comfortable with opening yourself up to a situation that has expired. This can be very risky!!
As we discussed earlier sometimes men do use other women to help them get over a break up, so you may see something you don’t want to see. Of course we never look at it like that. Maybe you can just call and ask to meet him at your favorite restaurant and dress to impress. You may find that he is receptive and want to get back together. On the other hand, as we discussed earlier, in most cases just like us once a man is finished for the most part, he is not too quick to give second chances. However if it means peace of mind in knowing that you tried to salvage what you could of his feeling so that you could renew your relationship, than like I always say; You only get one life so don’t live it with tons of regrets”.
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