As an adult I have realized that one of the hardest things to learn how to do is to love. LOVE is such a necessary emotion and contributes immensely to the health of our being.
So why does it hurt so bad!! Or does It? It hurts when we love someone that doesn’t love us back, and it hurts when we are hurt by the people we love. However, love didn’t hurt us, it’s the person who holds our love and heart in their hand that hurt us. It’s the person that we have entrusted such a precious and vulnerable gift that hurt us. So why do we blame love?
We are hurting ourselves by not being cautious with whom we give our love to. Now I am not saying that we need to never love again!
I am saying that falling in love is one of the biggest leaps of faith that we take during our lifetimes. The thrill of the leap itself can be mesmerizing and scary. But it is a necessary leap. Because a life without love is not worth living!
Recognizing true love is one of the more complicated steps in the process. Sometimes we are still blinded by the clouds and strung out on the adrenaline from the initial leap that we confuse a poisonous unhealthy love for a nurturing healthy form of love.
Although many can attest to the pain and frustration that one can experience while in love; this pain should never make you feel small or belittled. LOVE doesn’t come from the end of a slap or any form of physical abuse! Love doesn’t make a habit of verbal attacks!
Love definitely doesn’t continually point out flaws and spotlight negative things about a person.
Love doesn’t run when things get tough! Love sticks it out and helps build a person up. LOVE makes love stronger! Love endures and is patient! Love finds kind words when they need to be heard, love hugs instead of hits.
Love is something we should all experience, it is such a powerful emotion that if used correctly, it can stop wars and rid us of other powerful emotions such as hate, jealousy, anger and so on.. To express true love toward everyone even those who have wronged you is not an easy task; it takes a special person with a special heart to find love in all things in all situations and in all people. However, if we all work towards this goal in the end…
So when we are in a rut or we are going through a stressful situation, it is hard to see outside of ourselves and what is going on in our lives at the moment and how it is affecting our loved ones and those around us. The question is: how can we buffer the rough and hurtful journey that we are traveling?
First off we cannot shy away from our friends and family and those who love us and want to help us. These are the people who will feed you positivity and encouragement! Although it can be annoying sometimes, mainly because we just plain don’t want to hear happy words or have happy thoughts, it’s great to have that energy around you.
And yes, we also need time to ourselves to just have quiet time for reflection and planning. However, isolation is not key. When we are facing trials a lot of times it’s easier to believe that no one else has been through what you are experiencing, so we feel that no one can relate. That couldn’t be further from the truth. Your situation might not be identical but someone has felt the pain and despair that you are feeling and we should allow that advice to soak in.
Another way that I have fought my way out of a slump is helping others. When we help others even when we are hurting, it gives us an opportunity to look outside of ourselves and refocus our energy and minds on something else. Besides, let’s be honest, helping others always make you feel good about yourself.
No matter what battle we are fighting we have to strengthen ourselves from within first. We have to allow the hurt and pain to heal internally so that it will illuminate externally. Victory is inevitable if you stay the course, stay surrounded by positive energy and people, burst that bubble of isolation and allow ourselves to think of someone else and extend a helping hand and remember that “this too shall pass” there is a light at the end of the tunnel!!
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THANKS FOR ALL THE LOVE THAT MY READERS HAVE BEEN GIVING ME DURING MY BREAK!! I HONESTLY HAD NO IDEA HOW MANY MESSAGES THAT WERE LEFT FOR ME! IM WORKING ON RESPONDING TO THEM ALL!! THANKS FOR THE LOVE!!
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So, it’s been a while since my last post. I feel like maybe this is going to be the most difficult post I have ever submitted. Seems like when you are on a hiatus from something that you should’ve never taken leave from in the first place, there is a certain guilt and pressure you feel to be better or as good as you were before the break.
I always knew that I would find my way back to my blog again, but sometimes life can complicate things a bit. Figuring out how I would get back on that path was frustrating!! There were so many days I wanted to break out my device and start a post, but when it was time to actually do it, I froze. Most people who are passionate about something look at their work as a representation of who they are. This means they put a lot of thought into this passion and don’t want to rush and create work that is a FALSE representation of who they are.
With that in mind; I had no clue what to write about. I had hit a creative stumbling block. Have you ever had so many ideas that even that caused you problems? My brain exploded because of everything that I wanted to write about, but the inability to put it in words was mind blowing!!
I worked out and went to the gym to clear my head so that I could pick a topic, concentrate on it, and FIND WORDS!! Am I the only one that has used this technique? Well, it didn’t work!..😓
I refused to let it go this time and I looked for inspiration in everything: beautiful scenery and even just the day to day people watching as the masses commuted to work..
Long story short.. I found that I was complicating and over-thinking things. I have a lot to say, and the best way to deliver my thoughts is just to SAY IT! The way I express myself is what makes my work unique. It’s the ME factor. I literally almost gave up on this passion of mine because I treated it like a job and not a passion. It’s been years since I’ve published a post and I’m excited to jump back in and start sharing and reading all of the wonderful stories of others. Even if it’s been years like me since you have danced, wrote a song, created new music, whatever, Take a leap and never give up!!
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Overlooking everything in our lives that do not add value to it is not healthy. We don’t want to become comfortable with things, people, etc.. that counter the productivity and the substance that we are trying to add to our livelihood.
These people and things are like leeches sucking the light out of your life. They become like weights. The more you accumulate the more weighed down you will feel and soon the drive you once had is lost and your vision for your life becomes clouded.
Life is a fight. Evaluating your life, environment, friends and your own state of insanity takes persistence and bravery. Being brave enough to admit to yourself that changes need to be made is essential. Sometimes changes in our lives take us out of our comfort zone and that alone can be scary.
Keep fighting the obstacles so that you can live the best life you can. We only get one shot. .Let’s make it count
God Bless #testify
I am who I am, worry about who you should be. So many times people want you to follow their footsteps, but you can’t. We have to stay true determined not to be changed.. I love the way I love; I play the way I play. Our differences make us unique. . Our opinions make us special. Conforming makes us ordinary. Who doesn’t want to be different, strange or mysterious? Whatever your role and whoever you decide to be. BE YOU!! PLAY THE GAME BY YOUR RULES AND LIVE LIFE TO YOUR STANDARDS!! I’m sure someone out there is dealing with peer pressure or with the pressure to change your beliefs, but don’t.. like you, I AM BEAUTIFUL, I AM UNIQUE, I AM ME..I AM…….
Being yourself can sometimes be hard. Loving yourself can be the most difficult task you could accomplish.. not everyone will understand the decisions you will make, but you have to be yourself. Sometimes people will ridicule you and tell you they know what’s best. But it always best to be yourself!!.. know that you are a winner, know that you matter and know that you have purpose. Sometimes we look for others for validation; and that’s okay, that’s called being human. However in listening to positive criticism we must never agree with opinions that void our deepest beliefs and that shake our moral foundation. .
I haven’t posted in a while, I’m sorry for that. I have learned that some people actually look forward to my posts and I am forever grateful for that. We must all understand that we have a responsibility. A responsibility to ourselves first, to make sure that our minds and bodies are healthy to provide the service to others that we are regarded to.
No matter how small no matter how little we have to uphold the influences and responsibilities that we have to our fellow man. Remembering that life is greater than you should inevitably substantiate our existence. .if you can help; help, if you can teach; teach, if you can preach; preach, but whatever you do, do it with a healthy mind and body so that you can do it to the best of your ability and that it comes from a wholesome place.
Thanks everyone for your support even in my absence..it’s truly beautiful! !